How To Be A Better Partner | From Bishop Gobanga’s Desk

Here is a nugget on relationships that applies to those who are dating, engaged or married.

Replacing a partner after a breakup won’t help much if you don’t replace the version of you that your ex experienced.

You need to obliterate the version that you have already had from your past to the present.

There’s nothing wrong in breaking up with a person you are dating. If you once dated and had a breakup, it is not wrong. It also applies to people who were once married but due to certain factors they either divorced or separated.

What is wrong is if you still retain the older version of yourself, which pertains to your former relationship and expect that someone else will embrace a version that was shared with your ex.

Moving on requires that you move away from your older version.

Even if you are happily married or dating, take note that you still have to detach from current version of yourself that has frustrated your partner or spouse for years or months. The fact that your boyfriend/girlfriend is still with you doesn’t mean that you have to retain that version of yourself that is despicable to your partner.

The fact that you still have your spouse is not an indication that you have to retain your current version of you and expect that it will suffice for the rest of your life.

Always aspire to brand yourself to be better for your spouse or partner.